Self Emotional Help and Self Emotional Therapy

Here’s a guide to self emotional help and self emotional therapy. Some people rely on emotional therapy specialists to work through their emotions because no one taught us how to develop emotional awareness, emotional literacy or understand the emotional messages and emotional meaning behind each emotion.

Below you will find 10 categories of emotions, under which other “sub-emotions” are grouped. And instead of just calling them emotions, we’ll call them “Emotional Signals”. The reason we do that is because in order to begin to create a shift in your emotional state, you must first create a shift or transformation in the way you perceive emotions. And rather than just perceiving emotions to be emotions, it is far better and more empowering to view emotions as “signals” – signals that you get, telling you that you need to do something, deal with something or change something in your life now instead of waiting till it gets to late or unbearable.

The way to use this list of emotional categories and signals is, every time you feel an emotion, you first identify which emotional category it falls under. Then, you clarity what the emotional message is or put another way, what the emotion is “signaling”  you do to. By taking action towards a desired result, you will naturally get out of the “stuck” emotional state you are in and get into a more empowering emotional state.

Here is the list of emotional categories, each category having an emotional meaning or emotional message for you:

1) Emotional Category: Uncomfortable

• These are any emotions like boredom, impatience, uneasiness, mild distress, mild embarrassment, etc.
• Basically this emotional category represents any emotion that is bugging or bothering you in some way but at the same time is not so intense.
• The Emotional Message for you: – You must change the emotional state you are in. Clarify or decide what you want or want to feel and then take action towards it.

2) Emotional Category: Fear

• Any emotion like concern, apprehension, worry, anxiety, feeling scared or terrified.
• The Emotional Message for you: – You need to prepare yourself or get ready to deal with something or avoid the negative consequences of something that’s coming up, a situation or event.

3) Emotional Category: Hurt

• Most of these feelings come from a sense of loss of something or that an expectation you had, that hasn’t been met.
• The Emotional Message for you: – Change your behavior or you way of communicating your needs or desires or expectations. Evaluate the situation you in by asking “Is there really a loss here?”

4) Emotional Category: Anger

• Any emotions like mildly irritated, angry, livid, resentful, furious, or feeling enraged.
• The Emotional Message for you: – An important rule in your life has been violated by someone else or even yourself. You need to communicate to that person that your standard or rule may not be the same as theirs, that it hasn’t been met by them AND that you NEED their HELP in meeting that rule. Most importantly, ask them for help, don’t tell them.

5) Emotional Category: Frustration

• Any emotion that you would link to the feeling of being held back or hindered in your pursuit of something.
• The Emotional Message for you: You need to change your approach in how you are going achieve your goal or get the result you want. Whatever you’re going after, you’re not going to get it if you keep doing it the same way. You’re frustrated because you keep trying to get the same result with the same actions or methods again and again and it’s not working.

6) Emotional Category: Disappointment

• Anything that makes you feel the emotions of sadness or like you are defeated as a result of something you expected that didn’t work out so well.
• The Emotional Message for you: You need to realize that the expectation or outcome you have, is probably not going to be met unless you change yor expectation and make it more appropriate for the situation at hand.

7) Emotional Category: Guilt

• Whenever you feel any emotion of regret of something.
• The Emotional Message for you: You have violated one of your own rules or standards and you MUST do something IMMEDIATELY to ensure that you won’t violate it again.

8) Emotional Category: Overloaded

• Any emotions like feeling overwhelmed, hopeless or depressed.
• Anything that makes you feel like there’s more going on now in your life than you could possibly handle.
• The Emotional Message for you: You need to re-evaluate all the things you’re doing and prioritize them in order of importance, then take action on the first item on the list. Simplify things by taking action on the first item and working your way down the list, instead of trying to do too much or everything in such a short amount of time.

9) Emotional Category: Inadequate

• Any emotions that would make you feel like less of a man/woman or feel unworthy.
• The Emotional Message for you: You need to improve what you’re doing or you must change your criteria or rules in determining when and how you feel you are adequate and worthy or not because your own rules may be too hard to meet.

10) Emotional Category: Lonely

• Whenever you feel emotions of being alone, lonely, apart or separate from someone or something.
• The Emotional Message for you: You need more connection with people. You need to create more or better ways to talk, share, laugh, and connect with people.

If you would like to learn how to better use and act on each emotional signal you get a learn now how to master your emotions, feel free to schedule a Serenity Coaching session. One of the many benefits you will get from Serenity Coaching is you will learn the Serenity 7 Master Steps to Mastering Your Emotions.